Most men do not cheat because they don’t love their women anymore. Some complain about being bored in the relationship.
Others want to feel adored by their partners; they want to assert their freedom; they are tired of disappointing you; they want a partner who places them at the center of their life, and they no longer feel like the priority in yours.
Stories of relationships and cheating are prevalent. Sometimes it’s because you are speaking different love languages. Some men say it is a biological directive to procreate with as many women as possible for the survival of the species.
Whatever the reason, men have an innate need to feel respected and appreciated by their partners. It is most disconcerting for a man to realize he has disappointed his partner in some way. He wants to be her hero.
How to Keep Your Man from Cheating in Your Relationship
Below are some of the ways that you can use to keep your guy from cheating.
1. Don’t become too controlling.
Often without realizing it, when you get into relationships, you attempt to control the other person to do what works best. You engage in destructive relationship habits such as complaining, blaming, criticizing, nagging, threatening, punishing, and bribing or rewarding to control. Do not try to control your man too much to avoid getting into heated arguments.
2. Make sure your man knows how much you appreciate him.
Sometimes when women “get” the guy and get married, they begin to get a false sense of security. Remember, all relationships are voluntary. A person can leave at any time. With an over 50% divorce rate in this country, you need to remember how important it is to maintain a positive relationship, not merely to acquire one.
3. Let your man have time to himself.
Some men cheat because they begin to feel hemmed in by the relationship. Engaging in an affair can provide them the sense of freedom they lose in a relationship. Allow your man time for himself without you. Don’t try to monopolize all your guy’s time. Be open to time apart for him to spend with friends, pursue hobbies, etc. so he does not feel he has no freedom.
4. Be aware of your emotions.
Whether or not we are aware of it, women are masters at using their emotions to communicate volumes without speaking any words. You express anger, rage, sadness, and disappointment that is received by your partner.
Instead of taking that as a cue to do something different, some men begin to look for another partner who idolizes them the way you used to. Don’t forget; your man wants to know he lights you up, not that he is constantly disappointing you.
5. Prioritize your relationship.
Often, when a man cheats, you will find the woman is also having an “affair” that’s not sexual. It’s more socially appropriate. This “affair” takes the form of prioritizing something, anything, over the relationship. This could be a job, children, a sick relative, a charity, or anything that puts her man lower on her totem pole than the first position.
Prioritize your relationship over everything else. This is the relationship you want to last for all your life. Other things will fade away, and the relationship will still be there if you tend to it carefully.